How do I discern?

How do I discern?

The best first step in this sometimes difficult process is to follow the words most spoken in the Holy Scripture, “Be not afraid!” Whether it was an angel announcing good news, or Christ speaking to His disciples, setting aside your fear is the first step. Once you are open to hearing the Lord speak to your heart, a message that will most likely come as a quiet whisper, you will be able to truly discern, figure out, “Lord, where are you calling me to serve you in this life?”

Discernment must involve prayer, the willingness to seek out quiet in an otherwise noisy world, a desire to know God’s will for your life, and a love for the Church and all Her members. Discernment is the first step in coming to know if the Lord is calling you to serve him as a Roman Catholic priest.


“Christ is knocking very hard at many hearts, looking for young people like you to send into the vineyard where an abundant harvest is ready.” – St. John Paul II


Steps for Discernment

Steps for discernment

While there are several methods of discerning God’s calling in your life, the following steps will hopefully assist you with this process:

You must have a personal relationship with Christ

As Pope Benedict XVI states: “The seminarian experiences the beauty of God’s call in a moment of grace which could be defined as ‘falling in love’….It is only when a young man has had a personal experience of Christ that he can truly understand the Lord’s will and consequently his own vocation.” Have you fallen “in love” with Christ?

Pray for guidance from God

God has a plan for everyone and following God’s plan will lead to true happiness. Allow the Lord to lead you and have trust that He will only desire what is best for you. It is then that you will find true happiness and fulfillment in life.

Pay attention to the gifts and talents you’ve been given by God

God has blessed each of us with many gifts and talents, distinct to every person. Have you allowed yourself the ability to consider that these gifts that you have been blessed with from God could be used to serve the Church?

Pray before the Blessed Sacrament for guidance

The Real Presence of our Lord Jesus Christ in the Eucharist is the “source and summit” of our Catholic faith. What better place to spend time in quiet reflection and adoration then in the presence of our living God? “This is Jesus here. This is God. And priests exist to make him sacramentally present to the faithful.” Seek out a parish that has an adoration chapel and enjoy your time of grace in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament.


“Vocations are born in prayer and from prayer; only through prayer can they persevere and bear fruit.” Pope Francis

Seek advice from a priest

While many people are well equipped to assist you in your discernment of a priestly vocation, there is no substitute for a priest. Whether it is one of your parish priests, a spiritual director, or friend, the advice and direction received from a priest will be extremely beneficial in your discernment of a calling to the priesthood of Jesus Christ.

Receive the sacraments of Eucharist and Reconciliation

Regular reception of the Eucharist, definitely every Sunday and preferably every day if your schedule allows, will afford you the opportunity to stay in communion with the “Word made Flesh”. Unlike other food, the more you receive the Eucharist, the more you become like that which you consume. The sacrament of Reconciliation reminds you that we are all sinners and always in need of God’s merciful forgiveness. The more we receive forgiveness for our sins, the better we can configure our lives to Christ.

Know God, know true peace

True peace will be felt in your heart when you come to know God as an intimate friend. This peace will also lead to an affirmation that what you are experiencing emotionally in regards to your discernment of the priesthood is from God. Knowing what and where God wants you to be will come with an overwhelming sense of peace.

Look to Jesus as the model for all decision making.

“Father…not my will, but Yours be done.” (Luke 22:42) By seeking God’s perfect will, life to the fullest will be experienced. Jesus always followed the will of His Father, are we not called to do the same?

Be involved in the life of your parish

An excellent way to experience the life of a parish priest is to involve yourself in the life of a parish…..which is the life of a priest. Consider being an Extraordinary Minister of the Eucharist, Lector, Catechist or a member of a Committee, Commission or Council. The more you know about the life of a priest, the better you will be able to discern.

Why is discernment important?

The process of making a decision about your life with the help of the Holy Spirit is called “discernment.” It is the process of discovering God’s will for you. “Ultimately, our vocation consists in God calling us to consummate loving union with the Father, Son and Holy Spirit for all eternity.”

As you begin, remember that both you and God ultimately desire the same thing – your happiness. You want to make a decision about your life that will bring you happiness.

Therefore, you and God are not working at cross-purposes, but for the same goal. Discernment is a gift from God, assisting you in the ability to “come to know, identify or recognize one thing as distinct from something else.”

Discernment begins with the ability to ask without fear, “Lord, how can I best serve you?” Only after you are willing to ask this question can true discernment begin.

Some of the discernment programs that are offered through the Office of Priestly Vocations:

Discernment Weekends

This is for men who are 18 to 55 years of age. There are three Discernment Weekends each year and they all take place at Sacred Heart Major Seminary. During a Discernment Weekend, you will be given an opportunity to worship with the seminary community, meet the seminarians and faculty, attend a seminary class, meet other men considering the priesthood, learn how to better discern a priestly calling, and spend time alone in prayer.

Discernment Days

This is for young men, high school freshmen-juniors. A Discernment Day gives a young man the opportunity to interact with seminarians, receive direction about how to best discern a priestly vocation, learn more about the seminary, and spend time in prayer and reflection. We have two Days each year, one in the Fall and the other in the Spring, and they are also hosted at Sacred Heart Major Seminary.

There are no fees or obligations to come to a Discernment Day.  Attending a Day is certainly not a commitment to enter the seminary. But it is an excellent opportunity to take an honest look at the possibilities seminary life may hold for you.

Discernment Retreat with Archbishop Vigneron

The Discernment Retreat is for single men, between the ages of 18 – 55 years old, seeking a better understanding of their vocation from the Lord. It takes place at Sacred Heart Major Seminary in Detroit. This weekend retreat features presentations focusing on the different aspects of discernment. The featured speaker is Archbishop Allen Vigneron. Other presenters include Detroit seminarians and seminary faculty members. The retreat will also include time for quiet reflection and Eucharistic adoration.


A discernment story

A Discernment Story




Discernment Resources

Discernment Resources

Below are a few resources that may be helpful to you in your discernment.

Discernment of the Priesthood

Priests for the New Millennium by Cardinal Timothy Dolan

Men of Brave Heart by Archbishop José Gómez

The Men He Intended: Claiming our Vocation as Priests of Jesus Christ by Archbishop Charles J. Chaput, O.F.M. Cap.

To Save a Thousand Souls by Fr. Brett Brannen

What Does God Want? A Practical Guide to Making Decisions by Fr. Michael Scanlan, T.O.R. with James Manney.

A Priest Forever: The Life of Father Eugene Hamilton by Fr. Benedict J. Groeschel C.F.R.

The Cure D’Ars Today: St John Vianney by Fr. George W. Rutler

Dignity And Duties Of the Priest by St. Alphonsus Liguori

Witness to Hope: The Biography of Pope John Paul II by George Weigel

Diary of a Country Priest by Georges Bernanos

Catholic Church Teaching

Catechism of the Catholic Church

Ordinatio Sacerdotalis. Apostolic Letter on Reserving Priestly Ordination To Men Alone by Pope John Paul II, May 22, 1994

Sacerdotalis Caelibatus (The Celibacy of the Priest) by Pope Paul VI, June 24, 1967

Pastores Dabo Vobis (I Will Give You Shepherds) Apostolic Exhortation On the Formation of Priests in the Circumstances of the Present Day by Pope John Paul II, March 25, 1992

Jesus of Nazareth: From the Baptism in the Jordan to the Transfiguration by Pope Benedict XVI

A Living Sacrifice: Guidance for Men Discerning Religious Life by Fr. Benedict Croell, O.P. and Fr. Andrew Hofer, O.P.

Questions and Answers for Today’s Catholics by Michael Manning

The Priest and the Third Christian Millennium: Teacher of the Word, Minister of the Sacraments, and Leader of the Community by Congregation for the Clergy, 1999


Confessions by St. Augustine

An Introduction to the Devout Life by St. Francis de Sales

The Imitation of Christ by Thomas à Kempis

The Story of a Soul by St. Thérèse of Lisieux

The Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius of Loyola by St. Ignatius of Loyola

Soul of the Apostolate by Dom Jean-Baptiste Chautard, O.C.S.O.

Pastoral Presence and the Diocesan Priest by Fr. Paul T. Keyes

When God Asks for an Undivided Heart: Choosing Celibacy in Love and Freedom by Fr. Andrew Apostoli C.F.R.